10 Ways You Know It’s Monday

1. You get tired of waiting in bed for your husband to bring you your coffee, and then realize he’s not going to because he’s at work.

2. You realize after your 8 year old eats his cereal that he got the bowl out of the dishwasher… which wasn’t actually run the night before.

3. Having off-loaded 3 out of 4 kids at a friend’s house, you look forward to a quiet afternoon free from squabbling and fistfights… until your remaining child somehow manages to punch herself in the face.

4. Figuring you have a good 45 minutes before your first music student arrives, you sit down and relax for a few minutes before tackling the dog-hair-ridden floor and disgusting guest bathroom, only to be interrupted by a knock at the door, at which point you remember you changed the time of the first lesson.

5. Your parental control software blocks your access to your own website.

6. You go to make a cup of tea to calm your nerves, but discover the tea-kettle is empty. You go to refill the kettle from the pitcher of Arrowhead water, only to discover the pitcher is empty. You go to fill the pitcher from the giant, slippery, 5-gallon bottle of Arrowhead water, congratulating yourself on not dropping it, only to realize after it starts pouring that you hadn’t quite lined it up with the pitcher and that you are, in actuality, simply making a rapidly growing puddle of water on the kitchen floor.

7. You realize that the keys you misplaced a week ago aren’t under the dresser, where you had assumed they fell but never got around to picking up, and that you now have no idea where they are or when the last time was that you had them.

8. You finally get your tea made, go to put sugar in it, and discover that the sugar bowl is empty. You go to refill the sugar bowl and discover that the sugar canister is also empty. You pull out potatoes, onions and other bottom-shelf pantry necessities and contort yourself in order to get sugar out of the giant, "emergency" container of sugar which is stored at the back, only to stand up and notice a new bag of sugar sitting in a prominent place on the eye-level pantry shelf.

9. You try to write a list of ten items but can only come up with 9.

10. You go to post your lame 9-item “10 Reasons” list on your blog, only to discover that you have lost all connection to the Internet.

10 Ways You Know You Have Reached Middle-Age

1. It’s your birthday and you have to do the math to remind yourself how old you’re turning.

2. You are having dinner out for your birthday at a restaurant chosen for two reasons: they have a kid-friendly menu and you have a coupon.

3. You take a little trip to the beach on the way to dinner and get all excited when the star of one of your favorite TV shows jogs by... and then realize it went off the air 21 years ago.

4. You already know what you are going to order before you get to the restaurant and it has the word “Yankee” in the name and involves red meat.

5. You realize halfway to the restaurant that you left the coupon at home.

6. The waiter looks very, very young. You want to order wine but feel you would have to check his I.D. first.

7. Your daughter gives you a birthday card with a heartfelt paragraph detailing her love and admiration for you, but rather than feeling warm and fuzzy, you’re miffed because she wrote so small you have to don your reading glasses.

8. During dinner you find yourself reminiscing about how stylin’ you all used to be wearing your neon-colored crazy-patterned baggy pants.

9. When you count up your birthday cash you have to first resist the temptation to pay a bill with it and then look up your wishlist on Amazon.com so that you can remember what it was you wanted to buy with it.

10. You finish off the evening with a nice warm cup of non-caffeinated beverage and consider personally answering every single birthday wish on your Facebook wall, but then realize that would mean you’d have to stay up past 10 p.m.

Dingy Middle-Aged Women, Unite!

I have come to the conclusion that today is Dingy Middle-Aged Women’s Day. (That's Ding-y, as in air-headed, not Dingey, as in drab. Although drab Middle-Aged Women could be a topic for another blog entry, if I really get stuck). Come to think of it, based on my personal experience, it may actually be Dingy Middle-Aged Women’s WEEK. I started in on my own dinginess on Wednesday, when I tried to make tea by putting not a teabag, but a spoonful of sugar into the teapot. Then later I attempted to warm a plate of food by putting it in the fridge. I did at least discover my error with the plate of food unaided – the absence of the keypad on the fridge door was a dead giveaway.

Now, I was blaming my dinginess this week on the fact that my right ear is still clogged from the cold I had last year. It’s already a proven fact that I can’t see well when I can’t hear. After today’s events, however, I am beginning to wonder if this is not some kind of national honor week for dinginess, and that perhaps I lost the memo.

Case in point: driving down Sepulveda Blvd. in Manhattan Beach today, I saw four middle-aged women in dresses and heels, trying to cross the street. It wouldn’t have been so bad, but they were jaywalking, and had apparently forgotten everything they had learned about that skill in their teens. So instead of running across half the street and standing on the concrete median while traffic cleared on the other side, they tottered across half the street in their heels, laughing and chatting with each other, then stood, I kid you not, in the LEFT LANE of traffic, watching the traffic on the other side of the median. In an attempt to hurry things up (one supposes), they took turns bending at the waist now and then to peer up the street at the traffic, looking for a gap. However, not once did any of them look at the oncoming traffic on the side they were standing.

Eventually three of them did remember the “stand on the median” concept, but one of them saw no need to even move closer to it, and stood happily in the middle of the left lane, laughing and fixing her gaze on the traffic on the other side, while traffic on her side came barreling toward her and eventually stopped a few feet away from her. When the women did finally cross the other half of the street, they crossed not as a group, but as a line of stragglers, hesitant and wobbling on their high heels and giggling in embarrassment the entire way. This resulted in traffic having to slam to a halt on that side of the road as well.

Half a block up the road, I sat waiting for the light to change, shaking my head, tempted to judge but being honest enough with myself to realize that the only thing stopping me from finding myself in a similar predicament, in my current state of mind, was the fact that I don’t wear heels much any more. Just then another middle-aged woman crossed in front of my car. She was in the crosswalk, wearing sensible clothing, so I was about to heave a sigh of relief that it wasn’t an epidemic of dinginess. Then I noticed that she was talking on her cell phone. She had an earpiece in her ear, the kind that has a microphone built into the wire that connects it to the phone, so that the mic automatically sits in the middle of your chest, close enough to pick up your voice. The mouthpiece on the phone shuts off when you plug one of these earpieces in. Apparently no one had ever explained the mic to her, though, because she was holding her phone up to her mouth and shouting into it.

So there it is. Undeniable proof that this is Dingy Middle-Aged Woman’s Week. It may have something to do with the arrival of Mother’s Day. Perhaps if we all act pathetic enough this week, our families will take pity and realize that they need to plan something special for Mother’s Day without our help.

And maybe the earth will spin in the opposite direction for a day, too. Just as likely.

The Absolutely, Positively, You-Think-YOU-Had-A-Bad-Day, Worst Day Of Motherhood Yet

I shared this last week when I spoke to our local Mothers of Preschoolers group, and figured it was high time I recorded it for posterity on my blog. This day, in all its glory, occurred back in 1996, when I was trying to run a word processing business from my home while raising two small children. It was a large part of the reason I gave up the business and decided to focus on the kids instead, trusting God to provide the income we would lose. And of course He did, and still does, but that's another story.

January 30, 1996

The day started at 6 a.m., when 2-year-old Ian decided to crawl into bed with me. I tried to hiss "Get back into bed," quietly but firmly, but only managed to wake up 8-month-old Emily, who then also wanted to get into the big bed. The two of them had been working together all night anyway, making sure that we didn’t get more than two hours sleep at a time, so I don’t know why I expected to be allowed to sleep to a decent hour.

After a good strong cup of tea, I felt a bit better and was ready to face the day. At breakfast, Ian only drank his milk, but I figured I could interest him in more food later on. His lip was swollen with a couple of cold sores, so he didn’t feel like eating. I made a mental note to call the doctor AGAIN as soon as they opened at 9 a.m. This cold-sore problem had been going on for a month, ever since Ian had had his Chicken Pox vaccine, although each time I called, the doctor’s receptionist was adamant that it could have nothing to do with the vaccine and told me that "cold sores were not a big deal."

At any rate, the kids were playing happily after breakfast, so I started making beds and tidying up. Emily discovered the space heater in the bedroom and was banging happily on it with both hands, which resulted in a lovely metallic rattling sound. It was unplugged, so I wasn’t too concerned about it, but decided to take it away from her just so she didn’t get used to playing with it. Before I could, however, I heard Ian trying to brush his teeth, I dashed into the bathroom to do damage control. While I was extricating the toothpaste tube from Ian’s chubby fist, Emily crawled, chuckling with glee, into the room to see if she could join the fun. I picked her up so she could look in the mirror, and as I did, I noticed blood on the floor.

"Who’s bleeding?" I shrieked, quickly checking my feet and Ian’s while trying to hold onto a happily squirming Emily, but I couldn’t find any wounds on either of us. I then noticed blood on my hand, so I checked both my hands and all ten fingers, but still found no cut. It finally dawned on me that this must be my precious baby girl’s blood; since she’d never been wounded before, it hadn’t occurred to me that she could be. Okay, you try surviving on the amount of sleep I’d had over the past eight months and see if you can remember silly little details like "Even Babies Bleed."

She was completely unimpressed by the whole affair, despite the blood that was now DRIPPING from BOTH hands all over the bathroom floor. She wasn’t too keen on me washing the blood off her hands, though, and the world as we know it simply ENDED when I put bandaids on her fingers. Eventually, though, I had her cleaned up, sucking on a pacifier and snuggling down in my arms, softly sobbing now and then and completely exhausted from her Bandaid Ordeal. I traced the blood trail back to the bedroom, where I discovered that there were some vents on the back of the space heater with unfinished edges, which were apparently just sharp enough to slice into a baby's soft skin.

It was at this point that I realized I hadn’t seen Ian in a while. I put Emily in the crib and went Ian-hunting, only to find him still in the bathroom. He had now dragged a chair in there and was happily throwing Tums, two-by-two, into the sink, having already divested the entire box of Bandaids of their individual wrappers, strewing them on the floor. There were also two bottles of cough syrup lying suspiciously on the counter, but praise God, THEY had child-proof lids.

I struggled to keep a straight face and scolded him for playing with Mommy’s medicine, while rescuing about half the Tums and putting them back in the bottle. I chased him out of the bathroom so I could wash the blood off the floor, but before I got to it the phone rang. It was a client calling to say she was on her way over to update her resume. I abandoned the bathroom, hoping she wouldn’t need to use it, and rushed about clearing a path from the front door to the office.

In the middle of that, another client called. This one, an entrepreneur who had founded several successful companies, wanted to talk over a financial plan I had written up and asked him to look over as a favor. I sat down so I could pay attention to what he was saying, but just as he was making his third and most important point, Ian came trotting in from the kitchen, balancing a lemon meringue pie on one hand and gleefully shouting, "Cake!"

Between simultaneously trying to keep from bursting out laughing, look displeased with Ian and rescue the pie, I completely missed the third point. I sheepishly asked my client to repeat it as Ian trotted happily back to the kitchen. Carefully sliding the pie on top of the closest high, flat surface, I determined to pay closer attention. However, just as my client was expounding upon Point Number Three for the second time, Ian came back out, his little face quite earnest, carrying a medicine cup and medicine spoon. Which led me to believe he had been taking entirely too much medicine over the past few weeks, which then took me back to needing to call the doctor. Except I was using the phone right that second so I couldn’t.

Ian brought me out of my musings by somehow letting me know that he wanted me to fill the cup with pie so he could eat it with the spoon. Once again, I barely averted an explosion of laughter and bluffed my way through the rest of the conversation. To this day I haven’t found out what Point Number Three was. It became increasingly obvious that if I didn’t serve Ian a slice of pie immediately, he would begin screaming at the top of his lungs, so I gave him some, pushing aside the niggling thought that he hadn’t really had any breakfast yet.

While Ian ate his pie (which he was now calling "ice-cream"), I finished up the phone call and started tidying up the front room and office. Just as I was wiping the sticky evidence of Ian’s nutritionally bankrupt meal, my resume client arrived. I led her back to the office and Ian played shy for a good minute or two before he realized that I was preoccupied and that he had the run of the house.

Before long my client helpfully pointed out that Ian was disemboweling the toaster, so I told him to find his firetruck and play with it. He went off and actually played quietly for a few minutes. In the middle of consulting with the client, the phone rang. It was my mother-in-law, calling to tell me a long, involved story about how my sister-in-law’s purse had just been stolen. Before she got too far into the story, however, the call waiting beep went off, so I switched lines and found that it was an old friend offering me a job that was JUST PERFECT for me, just in case I was looking for one. In my free time, I suppose.

I finally told both callers I’d call them back and mentally added them to my list of calls, which reminded me I needed to call the doctor. But I didn’t think my client would appreciate another interruption, so I put it off again. Which was just as well, because Emily then woke up. On my way to get her out of the crib I discovered that Ian hadn’t been quietly playing with his firetruck after all - he had been quietly decorating the hallway with a pencil.

I somehow managed to finish up my client’s resume, despite the fact that Ian suddenly became fussy and whimpered his way to my lap, where he fell asleep. The client got up to leave, asking how much she owed me, and when I told her $10, she acted astonished that I would charge her so much. By this time I apparently had a "Don’t mess with me" look on my face, because she forked it over and left, muttering to herself all the way to the car. As much as I needed clients, I really didn’t care at that point that I would probably never see her again.

I put Ian down on his bed, fielded two or three more phone calls and finally sat down to feed Emily, removing the socks I had put on her hands to keep her from chewing on the Bandaids. She promptly picked up a Cheerio, popped it in her mouth and started to cough and gag. I then noticed one of the Bandaids was missing from her finger and frantically pulled her out of the highchair, flipping her upside-down and sticking my finger down her throat to dislodge whatever was in there. By that time she had stopped gagging and was looking at me as if to say, "Whatever are you DOING to me, Mother?"

I called the doctor, but by the time I actually got through to someone with medical training, Emily was happily eating strained carrots. The nurse said it sounded like she was fine and that I had been very lucky, and told me to watch Emily’s diapers to make sure the Bandaid came out the other end. I thanked her and hung up, and then realized I had forgotten to talk to her about Ian’s cold sores. It had taken so long to get through to the nurse on this call, however, I decided I would wait until things had calmed down a bit before I called back.

It was now noon.

I somehow ate half of my lunch between a few more phone calls, Emily falling asleep and Ian waking up. He helpfully finished my lunch for me. The afternoon started off quietly enough, the only casualty in the first couple of hours being a porcelain dish my mother had brought me from England. At 2 p.m. I even managed to call the doctor’s office about Ian’s cold sores. They told me AGAIN that cold sores were nothing to worry about. I felt like carting Ian down there, food in hand, and demanding that THEY try to get him to eat with cold sores all over his mouth, but I wasn’t up to any more "Look at the crazy lady" stares. When I got off the phone with the doctor, I discovered Ian in the bathroom again, flushing a handful of tampons down the toilet.

The phone stayed miraculously quiet for a few hours and I managed to get some housework done and feed Emily her dinner, but just as I was about to start cooking dinner for the rest of us, Ian let out a shriek and pulled off his diaper, pointing to himself and wailing. As I was quite fluent in toddler-speak, I ascertained that he was announcing that he couldn’t stand another minute of his diaper rash and needed a bath RIGHT NOW. So I pitched the dinner plans and gave both kids a lovely bubble bath, which they quite generously shared with me. It did, at least, give me an opportunity to wipe the blood off the bathroom floor. Ian enjoyed his bath so much that he did a happy-dance when it was draining, which caused him to slip and hit his head on the side of the tub.

At this point Alan came home. By the time I finished describing my day, he said he was exhausted just hearing about it and very wisely didn’t bat an eye when I served up sandwiches for dinner.

Epilogue: The Bandaid never did appear in Emily’s diaper, but a piece of tampon wrapper did.

Of Mustangs, Winter and Shooting Stars

Why does this type of thing always happen to me???

It started out tamely enough. Alan and I have been switching off, taking one child out per week for some Mom or Dad time. This week it was my turn, and I was taking out 14 year old Emily. A nice, sedate evening, I thought, compared to my previous “kid-date,” with 9 year old Erin, which included feeding ducks in the park on a freezing cold night when all sane parents probably had their 9 year olds tucked into bed already.

I didn’t reckon on the fact that Emily was a child that I had raised. We did have a rather sedate dinner at Marie Callendars, despite the fact that I borrowed Alan’s Mustang and was sorely tempted to speed all the way there. On the way home, however, I mused aloud that I had read that the waves were supposed to be 18’ today. “MOM!” Emily shrieked. “You have to turn this car around! We have to go look!”

Never mind that temperatures were in the low 50s. Besides, I reasoned, we could stay in the Stang with the heater on. Down to Manhattan Pier we drove, but upon parking, I was informed in no uncertain terms that sitting in the car was not the way to experience 18’ waves. Okay, well, the waves were not anywhere near 18’, but still. So we got out of the car. I’m British, I reasoned, I can take a little cold. It was then that I was sadly reminded of how long it has been since I actually lived in Britain.

Emily found a scarf in the back seat, which I graciously allowed her to wear, hiding my envy rather well, I thought. Then I remembered Alan’s propensity for disaster preparedness. “Let’s look in the trunk!” I exclaimed. We popped it open and looted to our hearts’ content, finding a sweater, a jacket, another scarf and a baseball cap that said “World’s Greatest Dad.” I got the scarf and the jacket, she got the sweater and the ball cap. By the time we finished stashing our finds under and over the coats we were already wearing, we looked like a couple of snowmen. But we were warm, boy howdy, and ready to brave the Manhattan Pier.

Down to the end of the wind-swept pier we trudged, not really caring about the strange looks of passers-by, partly because we knew we were warmer than they were, and partly because our funny bones had kicked in and we were enjoying the situation with increasing hilarity.

The end of the pier was strangely calm, smelled like fish guts and something else quite nasty, but we enjoyed it just the same. However, you have to understand that I suffer from a strange sort of Pier-induced OCD. Every time I am at the end of a pier, I have an almost uncontrollable urge to throw something valuable, like my keys, into the water. This night I had to work double time, because I had my cell phone in the other hand. So this, coupled with the awful smell, the bracing wind and the fact that Emily and I, given any period of time alone together, will generally reach great heights of hilarity, contributed to the fact that by the time we left the end of the pier, we were quite giddy with success and marched back toward shore, chatting and giggling loudly, oblivious to our unshapely profiles. A man was walking up the pier towards us, but I thought he looked a little strange, so I avoided eye contact. Emily, however, looked right at him and caught him rolling his eyes at us. A few seconds after we passed him, something clicked in her brain and she burst out, “MOM! That was Kevin Costner!”

When we got home, she looked up a picture of him on the web and confirmed that yes, that man really had been Kevin Costner. And there I was, looking like Frosty the Snowman, accompanied by my equally well-padded daughter sporting a “World’s Greatest Dad” hat.

Why can’t I run into famous people on good hair days, or on those days when I fit into my skinny jeans? Or perhaps when I’m doing something amazingly talented and impressive? No, I run into them, inevitably, when I am behaving badly or just plain looking weird.

Still, the evening wasn’t a total loss. After our run-in with the Famous Person, we went down to the sand to lie on our backs and look at the stars (I think our bodies were numb enough not to feel the cold at that point). Just before we left, we saw a shooting star and exclaimed at length and quite poetically at its beauty. Well, okay, we said, “Oh my GOSH!” in unison and then asked each other repeatedly, “Did you SEE that???”

And when our parking meter had finally run out and we were forced to go home, we turned on the radio just in time to catch the beginning of the song “Lowriders,” which I hated when it first came out in the 70s, but which seemed at this point to be the perfect song to blast all the way up Manhattan Beach Blvd., windows rolled down, heater blasting, lamenting over our less-than-fortuitous brush with fame and consoling each other with the thought that we really didn’t put much of a premium on movie stars anyway.

But you know that the next three or four times I go to the Manhattan Beach pier, I’ll make sure my outfit is stunning.

The Best Camping Trip Ever

We blew a tire and had to change it just a few feet away from traffic. Emily got sick, then sicker, and the neighboring campsite refused to turn off their music even an hour after curfew, so she couldn’t sleep, which made her even sicker. We finally had to break camp at midnight and drive home, which made her even sicker (mountain roads and nausea – not a good combination). Ryan followed suit about 5 miles from home. And when Alan unhitched the trailer at 3:30 a.m., the small wheel on the hitch popped off, causing the hitch to slam to the ground, punching a hole in the asphalt.

On Sunday, as we stumbled through a sleep-deprived version of unpacking, I began calling the weekend the Worst Camping Trip Ever, but Alan pointed out that we should call it the Best Camping Trip Ever. Why? As my father used to say, (craning his neck to the right), “You can look at it this way,” (and then craning his neck to the left) “or you can look at it that way.”

The thing is, it could have been SO much worse. Not that we sit around thinking of worst-possible scenarios; it’s just that it easily could have been worse in many ways.

Alan and I make it a practice trust God with every detail of our lives, and when we find ourselves in crisis, we turn first to Him. And while some may say that we were just lucky the circumstances played themselves out the way they did, or that maybe we just encountered a few coincidences, I believe that God is actively involved in our lives, especially when we ask Him. It would be hypocritical to ask for His help and then dismiss it as serendipity.

For instance, when we blew the tire, we pulled over as far as we could on the shoulder, but it was the tire on the driver’s side, which meant Alan had to get down on his hands and knees just 2-3 feet from the right lane. Miracle Number One was that he had bought a collapsible traffic cone just the day before and stowed it in the trunk.

Miracle Number Two occurred right after I started praying that God would protect him from the traffic – all it would take was a second of inattention on the part of a driver... we’ve all heard the horror stories.

After I prayed, and right about the time Alan started jacking up the car, a traffic jam started just ahead of us. Traffic slowed to a crawl and stayed that way until he finished changing the tire. As soon as he was out of the way, it picked back up again.

Roger and Cathy Dreger were caravaning with us, and since they were ahead, they had to turn around and come back. As a result, they saw the reason for the traffic jam. A 4x4 truck had pulled over to the side of the road with some problem or another, and the girls riding inside it took the opportunity to work on their tans from the bed of the truck. In bikinis. Everyone was slowing down to take a look.

Miracle Number Three happened while Alan was changing the tire. The driver of a sedan wasn’t paying attention and didn’t notice the brake lights ahead of him until the last minute, so he slammed his brakes on and swerved into the shoulder. The miracle is that traffic was stopped just PAST where we were at the time. If it had been ten feet back, the car would have swerved directly into Alan.

And so the camping trip continued, largely uneventful until late Saturday afternoon, when Emily began feeling ill. We waffled about whether it was wiser to pack up and go or whether it would be better for her to sleep through the night first. We chose to stay, not counting on our new camping neighbors, who started their family dinner and karaoke night at 9:30 p.m. At 10:30 p.m., we asked them politely to turn the music down, explaining the situation, but they didn't. By 11 p.m. Emily was getting sicker and we came to the conclusion that we really did need to leave, so Alan packed up the campground in the dark while I sat in the van and tended to the kids. At around 11:45 p.m., the neighbors finally turned down their radio, only to be overshadowed by the campers down the road who turned theirs up. At that point I almost lost it. And then, as I sat there rubbing Emily's feet and listening to the wind blowing through the trees, I suddenly thought of Paul and Silas singing praises to God after being thrown in jail. I thought, if they can do it, I can do it too. So I did. It was an amazing oasis of peace in the middle of a storm of chaos. And for a few minutes, while I was singing softly, the music was turned down. We found out from the Dregers that it was turned back up louder after we left.

Miracle Number Four happened on the drive home, when Ryan got sick – he had been asleep and therefore showed no symptoms of being ill, but the thought suddenly popped into my head that he was going to throw up, so I got the bowl ready. A few minutes later he coughed, so I flipped around in my seat and got the bowl in place just in time. TMI, I know, but if I hadn’t been ready, well... you know.

And the final miracle was when the wheel fell off the trailer. Alan had been pushing on the wheel with his foot to line it up in the right direction just seconds before it fell off. If it had fallen off then, the hitch would have punched a hole in his foot instead of the road. And at 3:30 a.m., who would have been around to help me pull the trailer off his foot?

So, all things considered, it was the best camping trip we ever had. Just like life, it wasn’t entirely comfortable, and it wasn’t what we’d expected, but it was a clear reminder to all of us that God protects us and provides for us in every situation. To quote Laura Story’s song, “Perfect Peace”:

Stay close by My side, and you'll never be alone
Keep your eyes on Me, and you’ll never be in need.
Though I may not calm the storm around you
You can hide in Me.

And besides, during the time between the Blowing Out Of The Tire and the Throwing Up Of The Offspring, we had a really nice time camping with friends, paddling around a lake and enjoying some beautiful scenery.

Just Like Heaven...

Some people say they can't imagine what heaven will be like, but I can. I have a vivid imagination, and therefore a very clear picture of heaven. In heaven, when I want to go to the park, I will make the decision and then just GO. I won't have to tidy the entire house to find the dog's collar. I won't have to clean out the front closet to find her leash, either. I won't have to do three loads of laundry to insure that my children have clean playclothes to wear. I won't have to weed the back yard to find missing shoes, and I won't have to employ the skills I learned in Psychology 101 to calm the angst of the children who are missing the clothes and the shoes. I won't have to run to the store to buy a new hairbrush. I won't have to pack lunch, snacks, drinks, sunscreen or first aid kits. I will just look out the window, appreciate the weather, grab a blanket and go to the park.

I don't know, though, maybe that's retirement I'm seeing. Maybe heaven's even better than that.